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Best Stress Management Strategy — Knowing What I Need When

& that it’s never advertising

Vytas Stoskus
3 min readDec 9, 2023

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Listening to one’s inner voice is critical in so many aspects of life that it has become a well-practiced skill of mine due to so many opportunities. Recently, I have been astounding myself with my precision in such perceptions & choices.

Living alone & often choosing to have most of my meals at home, I have had ample practice. While preparing, eating, & cleaning up afterwards, I have several hours per day to take in the news, lectures, interviews, audiobooks, music, standup comedy, or the late-night talk shows. Knowing which to choose when has become a skill that has become so fine-tuned that I seldom have to switch to another choice after beginning to listen to a certain piece or type of music or other audio input. When picking a playlist or a particular singer, my eyes usually find the right choice at 1st glance without even trying. They just seem to know where to focus.

The appearance of unblocked advertising or the mere waste of time of having to go down a list of options for which cookies I’ll accept on the internet is an almost automatic rejection of that news source or video. Few pieces of information are so vital that I have to beat myself over the head with nonsense. I, for example, have not had the radio or TV on in 14 years & counting, & there had been a couple of decades earlier during which I lived without a TV at all. The diarrhea-mouthed DJs on the radio & the ads on both TV & radio are so intolerably irritating that I have blocked them out altogether by never even turning on the dials of those 2 means of input.

It was interesting to learn how effectively I had become especially skilled at blocking out the drivel of advertising by the time I was a young man. A mall survey was the opportunity. Offered a few dollars to spend a minute or so watching a TV commercial & answering a few brief questions, I watched the ad & began answering the questions.

Question #1: “What was the commercial about?” That I was able to answer. It was car tires. Question #2, however, was beyond me. “Which brand of tires was advertised?” I had no idea. Since then, I have just been fine-tuning my crap detectors & have reduced significantly the deluge of stressors which bombard us daily.

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Vytas Stoskus

Social psychologist, psychotherapist (Worldwide thru Skype), conflict mediator; organizational, creativity, & unschooling consultant; Heretic, outside agitator.